It can be a tricky business, dating someone or having friends visit frequently, if your roommate objects to overnight guests. What to do? Think “communication,” and consider the following:
Make a Roommate Agreement
This is a bit like a lease between the people living in your household, a document that you agree upon and sign. Although a Roommate Agreement has several different components, one of them might be “house rules.” Not only will you have something to refer to if you ever disagree on appropriate guests, but it will allow you to lay out your desires and expectations before living together, so that everyone knows what they’re getting into.
Announce guests before they arrive
If you know someone is going to be staying with you, talk to your roommates. Tell them about your guest, how long she’ll be staying, and where she’ll be sleeping. Check that they’re comfortable with the situation, and if they’re not, have a conversation about how their concerns can be addressed without you leaving your friend on the street.
Have good taste, for goodness’s sake
Don’t invite someone over if you know he’s a slob, or obnoxiously loud, or a convicted shoplifter—unless you’re willing to pick up after/gag/reimburse for him.
Follow up if you start dating someone
Everyone has the occasional night when Tiesto or…other noises are emanating from their room. But just as you might not want to listen to your roommate’s sounds of pleasure from all those footrubs she’s been getting, she might not want to listen to yours all the time, either. Footrubs are just personal. Anyway, if you start having someone over consistently, talk to your roommates about whether they’re cool with having another person living there part time.
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