We’d have thought by now you’d have figured out how to make friends without consulting us…on the other hand, it’s great you’re not being cavalier about getting along with people who work in your apartment building. After all, they take care of you and deserve your respect, and we all know that our day-to-day interactions can deeply affect our mood and experience, so why be a downer to work for? To that end:
Treat your doorman like a person. Always greet the person working at the front of your building. That doesn’t mean you have to be chatty, and certainly don’t force an interaction. But a polite hello makes everyone’s day better.
If you ask them to do extra jobs, like walking a dog or cleaning a window, be sure to acknowledge that you’re asking for extra work, and expect to pay for it. In all but a few situations, doormen have specified duties. Don’t expect them to do anything extra unless you’ve reached a separate arrangement between yourselves.
Consider a holiday gift. Tips are conventional, and don’t have to be exorbitant. (Just don’t give less than last year!) If you’re feeling rather strapped or awkward about giving money, baked goods or another small present are also nice gestures. Check about food allergies first, though!
Don’t make a mess in the entryway. Seriously, not a good way to get on good terms. On the other hand, coming home drunk isn’t always a nuisance for a doorman, as some would find you quite funny.
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